Why Serving Leadership?

While the cliché, “It’s lonely at the top,” is well known, many leaders are still surprised when they encounter the truth of this in their own leadership journey. In its 2013 report, Stepping Up to CEO, the School for CEOs reports that loneliness and isolation were some of the biggest challenges leaders face.

When asked about leadership preparedness, one CEO responded, “I’m not sure that people are fully prepared for the loneliness of the role of being a CEO until they get there.”

There are several reasons why it’s lonely at the top:

• The ultimate responsibility of the company rests on your shoulders. Consequently, you must know things others don’t need to know, and carry things that they can’t.
• Some people will resent your role because they want it.
• Others will assume you have it easy, and push you away.
• Many people will blame you for the pains of their lives.
• You are afraid of the #2’s and #3’s in the organization, and you don’t want to lower your guard.
• Because you like to control your world and protect your autonomy, you inevitably push others back three paces.

The roots of leadership loneliness, therefore, are varied. Some of the roots are simply a part of the job. Others are a product of the sinfulness and frailty of human beings. Jealousy, resentment, accusation, fear, avarice, and greed can pull leaders toward isolation.

Why are loneliness and isolation dangerous for leaders?

Space doesn’t permit us to identify all the inventive ways leaders destroy themselves—as well as their loved ones, organizations, and the livelihood and savings of many—by mishandling their loneliness. If we’re honest, each one of us is an expert on this subject. We know the role that our own isolation plays in our failures.

Without anyone close enough to speak the truth, isolated leaders can tell themselves:

• They deserve special privileges—it’s easy to feel special when everybody says, “yes.”
• They’re above the law.
• They won’t get caught, they can walk on water, and they can negotiate around the law of gravity.

What is dangerous about untended leadership loneliness is the havoc an isolated leader can wreck. We can’t handle the pressures, temptations, and problems of leadership by ourselves. We require help.

What helps to bring a lonely and isolated leader back to life?

• Wise and loving friends—we can’t navigate life’s challenges without them.
• A coach or mentor—a trusted coach or mentor has valuable experience and is familiar with the kinds of pressures we bear.
• Physical exercise—we must work off our stress.
• Spiritual exercise—we must cultivate our heart and soul. Courage, integrity, kindness, and calm come from the inside of a life that is whole.
• The decision to not live for self—there’s no helping an isolated and lonely leader who is selfish. Deciding to live for others is much of the battle.

One of the hardest truths about leadership—and part of the reason that “it’s lonely at the top”—is that we leaders must lead ourselves. Whining that we don’t have trusted friends, or mentors, or any of the other resources we need, is a leadership disqualifier. Leaders take responsibility. We must lead ourselves to the people we need, reach out, ask for help, get a coach, crawl out of bed early to feed our soul, and remind ourselves that we don’t exist for ourselves.

Here are three ideas to get started if you’re facing leadership isolation:

1. Go through your most recent yearbooks, looking for people you were close to and trusted in school. Search for them using Google, Facebook, or LinkedIn, and identify any who are now leaders. You might ask, “What have you found that helps you handle the pressures?” If they respond with, “What pressures?” move on; they can’t help you. If they say something like, “I know what you mean; something I do that helps is…” then consider taking a second step. Ask them if they are available to sit down for an evening, over dinner, and compare notes—friend-to-friend.
2. Do an inventory of the leaders in your region who have 20+ years on you. Think about what you observe in them, and very carefully sort them out, putting the “Graceful, wise, good, kind, and thoughtful” ones onto a short list. Ask yourself, “Which one of these would I like to have a cup of coffee with?” Then reach out. “I’m growing in my leadership,” is a great way to start, “and I’m reaching out to a few people I look up to. May I have 45 minutes of your time to ask you a few questions?” Then prepare well, treat their time respectfully, and see how it goes. If it goes well, you might ask them if they would be willing to do it again, say in another few months.
3. Join a professional mentoring or coaching group. These are great places to connect with executive peers who share your same challenges. At the Center for Serving Leadership, our regional cohorts meet once a month for six months. Throughout this time, participants walk through the 5 Actions of a Serving LeaderSM, and are coached in how to embed each action into the culture of their business. Participants gain valuable insight, sharpen their leadership skills, and build valuable friendship with other leaders in the community.

There is no expectation that leaders are invincible and should not be well cared for. No expectation that a leader doesn’t have a need for true friends, or should only have one mentor. There is an expectation, however, that leaders must take the initiative to search for these things, to discern good from bad, and to find the friends, mentors, and coaches that we need.

1 School For CEOs (2013). Stepping Up To CEO: Preparing For The Role Of Chief Executive. Retrieved from http://www.schoolforceos.com/assets/Managed/School-For-CEOs-Research-Report.pdf

In our early study of and writing about Serving Leaders, I often swapped stories with my co-author, Ken Jennings, on a finding that we both seemed to encounter, time and again, in our various workplace engagements. The finding was simply this: The first evidence of a great leader in the making was a company or organization full of great leaders surrounding them.

We liked – and still like – the paradoxes of life and leadership, and this one didn’t escape our notice. “You’re in charge principally to charge up others,” was how we said it then. Here’s a way I like to say it now: “The greatness of a great leader will often make its first appearance in an act of leadership demonstrated by someone else.”

I would suggest that the field of leadership still hasn’t nailed that which is the essence of leadership. This word – leadership – is a relatively young word, and the science and art of leadership is barely into its second century. (“Lead” is a very old word, of course; what I’m speaking of here is the word, “leadership,” and the discipline of its study and practice.)

Joseph C. Rost, whose untimely passing in 1988 left a huge hole in the field of leadership, did us all the favor of carving the field of leadership down to a more focused and sensible shape. “Leadership is an influence relationship,” a piece of Rost’s famous definition, now can be heard coming out of the mouths of every contemporary leadership guru. Leadership is not force, manipulation, mere achievement, or any number of often-laudable things. Leadership is influence, exercised inside a relationship that produces more leadership.

There have been many terrific business owners, entrepreneurs, chief executives, and general managers who got the job done, kept the train on schedule, met customer expectations, made money, and, quite frankly, kept the organization looking very good! But, on the day they stepped down or retired, the job stopped getting done, the train flew off the rails, and entropy settled in everywhere. Why? Because these owners and executives weren’t true leaders. They didn’t focus on bringing up more leaders, to take over once they were gone.

Essentially, “Leadership Job #1″ is identical to “Succession Planning 101.”

As a great leader today, you must concentrate on teaching and coaching your people to know, value, see, and do what you know, value, see, and do. This takes rigor and intentionality. Fortunately, the 12 – 18 months of focused work this requires will not only prepare your company to thrive without you, it will cause accelerated growth for your company as you bring others up into greater capacity. I would say this falls into the category of “win-win.”

Throw out whatever remains of the notion that “making stuff” and “making money” is what it’s all about. If you’ve been successful for a while, you’ve already thrown much of this notion out. What it’s all about is growing people, serving people, adding value, getting better, pursuing excellence. Build a people and leadership growth flywheel, and profit is maximally served, as is the preparation of future leaders to keep the organization’s growth at a high trajectory.

Find a leader for yourself. Hire a coach. Become a learner. Whatever path works, secure your ability to pour yourself into those who follow you by being a person who is poured into. At the Center for Serving Leadership, we have established cohorts of great leaders around the country who are ready to serve others, and to be served, when it comes to their own and others’ vital leadership development and growth.

Leadership is brought to life through flow. We can’t give if we aren’t receiving. We don’t grow leaders if leaders aren’t growing us. In leadership, like begets like, and that fact applies to the process of growing leaders.

Let’s simplify: We can’t give that which we don’t receive. If you want to grow great leaders, you need to be grown by great leaders.

When I was a boy, I was a dreamer. Starting this blog with that sentence makes it sound like I’m not a dreamer anymore. Nothing could be further from the truth, so allow me to write that first sentence more to my point:

When I was a boy, my mother worried that I was too much of a dreamer.

On many a perfect summer day, my mother noticed me sitting in a rocking chair. My eyes were closed, and I was (you guessed it) rocking—and for great lengths of time. While my memory is far from perfect, I do believe she used the word “lazy” with some regularity in her expressions of worry about me.

What my mom didn’t understand is that I was very busy in that rocker. I was dreaming. I was scheming. I was planning. And I was getting ready. In due course—granted, my boyhood “due-course” could be a solid two hours of rocking—I’d light out of that chair and go pull off a feat or two. Then, I’d step-back, plop down, lay back, and otherwise chill; needing to regroup, appreciate, think and wonder, and start the cycle all over again.

Today, if my mother would watch my day, she’d worry that I’m a workaholic. “Lazy” wouldn’t be part of the conversation. And, I must admit, any concern she might hold for the way I engage the world would likely be closer to the truth today than the concern she held when I was a boy.

I do love to work, and I do work a lot. But it isn’t that I love to work for work’s sake. It’s the completion of things that I love—the creating, building, writing, making, serving, and moving chains that brings me such fulfillment. It isn’t the “do”-ing per se, that I love so much as it’s the “done”-ing. I love to see an idea—a dream, a plan—brought to realization. For me, work is simply an extension of the dream.

Over the years, I’ve been asked with some regularity how I get so much done. I know what works for me, so the following suggestions need to be taken with a grain of salt. Work might happen differently for you, but here are 5 rules I try to follow to help me get stuff done:

1. Master Single-Tasking—Dr. Henry Cloud points out that brain science is clear on the subject of multi-tasking, which, in short, we can’t do. Our brain functions optimally by processing one thing at a time. As we focus on a particular task, our brain is contributing great amounts of background data, all of which is outside our conscious awareness. This background data enables us to focus more clearly and creatively. Every time we flit from project to project—single-tasking in rapid succession and calling it multi-tasking—our brain’s background work gets scrapped. With every skip! Single-tasking allows our brain to bring forward its larger contribution and add it to our task at hand. This vastly improves our productivity and quality of work. Pretending to multi-task is akin to hitting the delete button on great amounts of this “value added work.” It’s a terrible stewardship of time and talent.
2. Break Big Goals Down—When, in the summer of 1999, I turned my attention to the writing phase of my dissertation, I was working very full time at Pittsburgh Leadership Foundation. I took the immense volume of requirements that my dissertation committee gave me and made a colossal spreadsheet out of it, breaking the entire project down into very small bites. Then, I got to work on the small bites. I did them, one step at a time. A great deal of time is squandered staring at an impossible job. I turn big jobs into small jobs, and then I do small jobs.
3. Finish Something, Then Check it Off—I mentioned earlier that I like the word, “done.” Completing a task is energizing to me. I heard a retired military officer tell a graduating class that the reason the soldier always makes his or her bed, first thing, is that it provides an immediate “mission accomplished” for the day. One job done more readily leads to another.
4. Work in Focused Bursts—Here, I am least confident that my way of getting stuff done can be universalized. It works for me to jump full in, take a task to some benchmark of progress, and then step away. I think there may be people who prefer the long, steady pull, so accept this rule for what it’s worth. Yet, I recently had my 120-year-old slate roof replaced. I had already babied it a quarter century past its decrepitude, and could coax nothing else out of it. My contractor hired an extraordinary crew of skilled roofers who removed the old slate, meticulously cleaned my yard, and put on the new roof in just three days! How did they do it? The 14 men worked in 45-minute bursts—45-minutes of full engagement, full attention, full watchfulness for safety, full care for quality. And then they all sat or laid down in my yard for 15 minutes. 45 on, 15 off. And the sustained productivity, safety, and quality were nothing short of stunning!
5. Stop, Step Back, Look Around, Appreciate, Re-Engage—As a boy, I did this in a rocking chair. I find it necessary to step away very regularly, stand up, look out the window, take a breath, and review what I’ve done. A walk, nap, cup of coffee, or break—whatever works. Winston Churchill recommended painting. Yes, the indefatigable Prime Minister of Great Britain picked up his paintbrush, right in the middle of his endless day, and worked on a flower petal. He said it was as worthwhile to his refreshment as a proper nap, which he also took religiously, every single day (Churchill made it clear that a nap was worthless unless you took your clothes off and crawled into bed). What a slacker, Churchill!

What are your productivity hacks? What have you found works for you? When we take a step back and stay true to ourselves before getting down to work, we can bring personal insight (and even a few learned tricks) to help us get stuff done better and faster.

In my nearly 57 years, I’ve walked many long pathways alongside discouraged, depressed, or despairing friends and loved ones. I’ve sat by their bedsides. I’ve listened to the laments and the outcries of dear souls who feel utterly separated from life’s meaning and joy.

The leaders I serve are not immune from this kind of struggle, either. While others would assume their lives are going swimmingly, leaders, too, can descend into deep discouragement and malaise, even right in the midst of apparent triumph.

Milonica, my beloved wife of 35 years, has encountered long seasons of abject darkness; She who is—hands down—the brightest, most colorful, most deeply alive, and courageous human being I have ever known. And beautiful. Just saying.

When I was a young man, I was terrified of such despair, and I didn’t want to let it come close to me. But over the years, I’ve learned to be a companion to my friends and loved ones in their times of suffering. I’ve learned to be present, to walk alongside, and to be, simply, with. I’ve also learned to listen; really listen, beyond the noise of my own answers and my need to fix (which Milonica credits to my XY chromosome pattern).

One of the simplest and most frequently asked questions I’ve heard over the decades is, “What’s it all for?” This question is asked in a variety of ways: “What’s the use?” “What does any of this mean?” “What’s the point?” Or, when really stripped bare, the question comes out more simply as, “Why?” “Why am I even alive?”

We should be deeply curious about the fact that these questions—and this kind of despair—can strike anybody, visit every kind of circumstance, and torment all types of people. We human beings require meaning, is the short of it, and this fact should raise the hairs on the back of our necks. People who have every advantage, privilege, and perk of life can be brought to their knees with questions about life’s meaning. As can people suffering the worst of human privation. Equally astonishing is the availability of hope, which is no more a respecter of persons than despair. The privileged can live in hope, as can the poor.

A human person needs meaning and purpose, just as a daisy needs sun. We are more than the sum of our material parts; that is for sure. There is a life force – a law of our nature – that is at work within us, beyond survival and material want, and this life force cries out for purpose.

Listening closely over the years to the people I love and serve, I have learned that in our “search for meaning,” money, fame, power, and pleasure do not bring us satisfaction. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with money, fame, power, or pleasure. But men and women who believe that these things are the ultimate goal of life often report, when they gain them, that their despair only worsens.

So, what does answer the heart’s cry for purpose? Thus far in my listening and in my paying attention, I have identified six answers to this question. The human person cries out:

1. To be known. We have, within us, an unassailable conviction that we are somebody, uniquely so, with a one-of-a-kind identity. In order to be known, we must go on a journey of learning about who we are, reflecting on our own life, and opening ourselves to feedback and discovery. We, ourselves, need to know who we are, just as we need others to know who we are.
2. To be needed. Darwinian survival of the fittest misses the point. Human beings perish when they aren’t needed, useful, valued, or put to service. The retiree who doesn’t have anybody to get out of bed for doesn’t have long to live. Fitness is useful to our survival, but only in the way that coffee beans are useful to a barista; fitness (and coffee beans) can’t explain what gets a human being out of bed in the morning—to make coffee or to do anything else. That somebody needs us can explain our desire to live.
3. To make a difference. Beyond being needed, we want to have a real impact in the world. We want to leave an imprint, to be effectual, to be heard and seen and felt. We long to know that the world is different—better—because we lived.
4. To create. I have never met a human being that didn’t have an idea, a vision, a plan, or a scheme to bring something into existence. Parents create, as well as painters, entrepreneurs, gardeners, and pianists. Integral to our humanness is the inclination to take a notion, and then to bring into existence that thing we conceived.
5. To love and to be loved. The truth about our requirements for love—both to love and to be loved—is manifest everywhere on earth. Suffice it to say that, arguably, the human person is the only creature on earth who cannot survive, let alone thrive, without love. Love is a human requirement, as is food, air, and water.
6. To have purpose. Taken together, our cry to be known, to be needed, to make a difference, to create, and to have loving relationships constitutes our experience of purpose. And purpose is required. Life is simply impossible without it.

Recently, late-night talk show host Jimmy Fallon fell in his apartment and nearly lost his finger when he caught his wedding ring on the corner of a table as he was going down. The entire ordeal landed him in the ICU for 10 days, which gave him time to think about his life and his purpose. During his hospitalization, Fallon read Victor Frankl’s classic, Man’s Search for Meaning, which he “absolutely loved.” “I know the meaning of life,” Fallon recently said to his audience. “If anyone’s suffering at all, this is my job … this is why I’m here, I want to spread the love.”

Fallon gets it. What’s it all for? We’re here for others. Frankl says it this way:

A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the “why” for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any “how.”

Values are the foundation of an organization’s culture. Where Great Purpose addresses why we work, values guide how we work. This guidance will be intentional, or it will be unintentional, because every organization has values. The question is: “Will we choose the values that will guide us, or will we allow ourselves to be pushed around by the riptides of opportunity and crisis?”

Identify and Define Your Values

The enterprise that says – “We don’t waste our time on things like values. We’ve got a business to run!” – is, in reality, showing their underlying values. Examine the pattern of decisions and you’ll know what their “values statement” would say.

The business that says it values integrity, but rewards the salesperson bringing in the most business while cutting ethical corners, is displaying its true values. The stated values are not real, of course, but the company still has values. By their fruit, you will know!

Question: Why do identifying and defining a company’s core values, and then intentionally guiding the enterprise accordingly, attract and keep extraordinary people?

Answer: Human beings won’t give their discretionary effort – their imagination, heart, conviction, or honor – to a company that doesn’t mean what it says. Human beings might decide that they need to stick with a bad company in order to keep a paycheck coming, but human beings won’t go the second or third or fourth or fifth (or tenth) mile for such an enterprise.

Question: What makes great companies great?

Answer: Human beings who go the second or third or fourth or fifth (or tenth) mile, without having to be told or asked.

Question: How do you get human beings like that?

Answer: You identify and define your values. Then you do two additional things, which we’ll dive into next.

Hire, Manage and Reward Based on Values

When Paul O’Neill became Chairman and CEO of Alcoa in 1987, he informed his board and upper management that worker safety was his number one priority. But for O’Neill, a declared value had to be translated into action, into how money got spent and how managers made decisions day by day. “In every organization, written values statements all say the same thing,” he remarked later to a group of Harvard University business students. “‘Our most important asset is our people.’ There’s [very] little evidence that it’s true in most organizations.”

Making values operational was O’Neill’s preoccupation, and for him that included planning, decision-making, hiring, and firing. It also included organization, supervision, employee evaluation, and rewarding success. In fact, the world’s breakaway companies hire for values. They look for the integrity, drive, humility, respect, honesty, capacity to accept feedback, humor, courage, etc. that the company values. “Really smart” does not cut it if ego runs roughshod over everyone. “Highly competent” is always replaceable.

When O’Neill took over the reins at Alcoa, revenue was $1.5 billion. When he retired 13 years later, revenue was $23 billion. In this same period, O’Neill improved the safety record within Alcoa’s workforce of 140,000 employees from 1.86 lost workday incidents per 100 employees per year, to 0.2 lost workday incidents per 100 employees per year. His goal throughout that period was to drive that number all the way to zero.

Hold Self and Others Accountable for the Values

People and organizations are judged based on their behavior, not their words. Trust is established and sustained based on actions not promises. Therefore, making sure that values matter starts with the actions of the leader. Leaders must walk the talk and they must ask those around them to also be held accountable for modeling the values.

In Managing By Values, by Ken Blanchard and Michael O’Connor, an organizational chart is depicted, looking very typical in many respects. The line-level workers are depicted at the bottom. Above them are mid-level managers and above them, the executive team, then the CEO. Above the CEO is a final box on the chart, occupied by “The Company’s Values.” In other words, everyone answers to the values.

One of the CEO’s I work with told his story: “When I took over, morale was terrible, there was no standard of behavior from team to team, and the culture was Darwinian. Fear ruled. When I first introduced the importance of values, everyone was skeptical, but I stuck to my guns. In time, I won believers, and the culture began to shift. People began to test me by doing what our values said. I praised them, including when it cost us money. Naturally, I began to win more and more believers.

“One day, I was on the plant floor talking to a maintenance man, and I made a little joke – a criticism, to be honest – at the expense of one of my managers. The maintenance man became very quiet, scuffed his feet on the floor, took a deep breath, and then looked me in the eye. ‘Boss,’ he said, ‘You’ve been talking about how we should respect each other. I beg your pardon, but I don’t think that was respectful.’

“That was the day I knew that we had broken through!” the CEO concluded. “A maintenance worker called me out on a values violation! It was one of the best days of my life!”

Again, I ask the question: What makes great companies great? If you take the time and steps necessary to identify and define your values, then hire, manage, and reward based upon those values, and ultimately hold yourself and others accountable for those values, you will have created a great company full of great people who will always go the extra mile for you.

It all starts with leaders and managers who translate their “good intentions” to be people of ethical standards into people who live out those values in their organizations every day.

Robert Greenleaf catalyzed a modern “servant leadership movement” in management philosophy over the last 40 years. His famous quote on the subject was this: “Do those served grow as persons; do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants?”

This is the right question to ask. Do the people you lead – do the people you serve – become stronger, gain sharpness, grow in excellence and initiative, and deepen their sense of worth and purpose as a result of your leadership? And just why is this the right question? It’s the right question, simply because the people you serve do all the work. The more awesome they become, the more awesome their work.

When Jim Collins, author of Good to Great, went searching for the secret to company greatness, he told his researchers to not come back and tell him it was leadership. He believed that greatness had to be the result of many people doing great things. There weren’t enough leaders in an enterprise to account for all the great stuff going on. Collins was right that the leaders weren’t doing all the great stuff. However, he discovered that he was wrong in telling his researchers to discount leadership from the equation.

Simply, leaders create the conditions that equip, inspire, support, guide, and encourage people to reach for greatness. Leaders create those conditions, or they create the opposite. Depending on your leadership, people will choose to give their all or they will choose to be utterly miserly in what they do on the job.

A new research study on the impact of servant leadership by the University of Illinois at Chicago backs this up. Published in the Academy of Management Journal, the study revealed that when managers put the needs of their employees over their own – in essence, create a serving leader culture – measurable improvements in job performance and customer satisfaction resulted. In other words, serving leadership is not just a nice thing to do. When leaders authentically serve their employees, the conditions for organizational greatness are created.

When I work with leaders, I teach 15 simple behaviors essential in creating those conditions. These behaviors address leaders’ responsibilities across five strategic facets of their work. Sometimes I’m asked if these 15 behaviors are sequential, or if they have a hierarchy of priority or value. This question is born from a desire to know where to start the work of getting better as a leader.

The truth is that any leader who has some track record and some success is already doing many right things. In other words, you’ve already started. The best thing to do is to (a.) get clear on what “right” looks like, (b.) assess where you’re already strong, and where the low-hanging fruit is to get better, and (c.) work on the next thing that you know you can improve.

That said, let me offer the most elementary behavior that we teach: “Serve Others First.” This is the foundation stone of any business – we serve a customer, or we don’t have a business. It is also the foundation stone of leadership.

Ask yourself this question: “In my leadership, do I want to serve others?” If the answer is “no,” there isn’t much I can do to help, other than to encourage you toward a deep self-examination of what you want out of life. Serving yourself as the chief aim in life cannot lead to good things.

But if the answer is “yes”—that is, you choose to become the kind of leader who will serve others first—I can help in very concrete and practical ways.

Here’s a simple self-assessment that will guide you into an important action plan:

1. Do I know the people I am serving? What do they value? What are their goals? What do they like and dislike about their job? As leaders, we must explore these areas if we are to know our people well enough to serve them!
2. Am I genuinely interested in the success of the people I serve?
3. Am I providing the coaching and the feedback my people need to grow?
4. Am I sharing the information that my people want and need in order to do their job effectively?

If you answered “no” to any of these, try this out: First, make a list of three people you serve—people that you lead. Second, honestly commit yourself to learn as much as possible about them. Third, make a small list of questions you need to ask them. Finally, make a plan—with a deadline—of when you will take them to lunch or for coffee, and really begin to learn what you need to know.

Make it your business to discover what they are seeking, how they are doing, and what they need to succeed. Write it down, put follow-ups in your planner, and take action to serve them in their pursuits. Their progress is your progress.

When I give an executive this assignment, I am frequently told, “This is just common sense.” And, I agree. It is common sense, but unfortunately, it is not common practice.

A bank CEO once sorted through the array of training and coaching offerings I had given him and then selected this exact point of focus – Serve Others First. He set up meetings with his executive assistant, his Chief Operating Officer, and on through his list of direct reports. He discovered he knew close to nothing about what got these people out of bed in the morning. It shamed him, and he took action to correct this leadership gap. Today, that CEO reports that this “common sense” behavior transformed his bank, the lives of many who work for him, and their collective capacity to bring extraordinary service to their customers.

Serving others is the foundation stone of business, and it is the foundation stone of leadership. Who will you serve today?

There’s a famous quote that is just, plain wrong. Those who can, do; and those who can’t, teach. We’ve all had the misfortune of bumping into a couple of blowhards who can neither do nor teach. While they’re “teaching,” it’s apparent they don’t know what they’re talking about. But apart from such, the greatest teachers are men and women who live what they teach.

This is especially true about leaders. Let me explain how this works, and why it is imperative that leaders who are good at leading must make a commitment to teach.

Many organizations struggle to identify their “secret” to success. Founders, especially, are unclear about their unique approach that made them successful. They can do the job themselves, but they don’t know how to describe what makes them successful. Great leaders and organizations come to terms with this – they make the effort to identify their success factors and teach them to others.

We Are Responsible to Get Clear on Why We Are Successful

As just stated, founders frequently fail to successfully pass their businesses on to the next generation. As a result, they cannot get the value out of their business that they’ve put into it. This happens because they didn’t prepare their team to know and do what they themselves uniquely knew and did. Likewise, organizations often fail to coach their people to become masterful with “the secret sauce” that made the company successful. Little by little, what was special, unique, and highly valued slips away without anybody’s notice.

We Are Responsible to Teach “The Secret Sauce” To Our Success

“Great leaders are great teachers!” Noel Tichy, the management guru from the University of Michigan, said this. Tichy pioneered the “leader as teacher” research, promoting the principle that all great leaders need clarity on what they are teaching. He called this their “teachable point of view.” And, of course, if you are going to have a “teachable point of view,” you need clarity about your business’s success factors.

People on the front lines can’t perform at the highest level if they do not have a clear understanding and commitment to the success factors. A self-serving leader is afraid to teach the things that produce success, because they’re afraid that their people will end up being able to do the leader’s job. This is tragically ironic since the mark of great leadership is the ability to make others stronger.

We Are Responsible to Remove Waste and Obstacles

Does this sound familiar? You wake up in the morning with the intent to have a “quiet time” before the day hits you broadside. You walk into your study with an aromatic cup of tea or coffee in one hand, and your book of serene meditations in the other. You take your favorite seat and spend the next 20 minutes trying to find a firm surface upon which to set your cup, shuffling down through the layers of memos, bills, half-completed work projects, and mail.

This, in essence, is what “remove obstacles and wasted effort” addresses. Whether the clutter and extra steps are suffered at home or work, they frustrate progress, rob results, and all importantly, discourage people.

One of the best outcomes from (a.) getting clear on why we are successful, and (b.) teaching others how to do these things, is that it frees us to STOP doing things that don’t bring value. We can stop wasting our time on extraneous effort once we know which efforts are the extraneous ones. And we can simplify our day, our desk, our to-do list – removing the waste and the detours – to focus on things that matter most.

Good leaders have figured this out. They become students of their success and accept the fact that they must teach others. Precisely because they CAN, they dedicate themselves to TEACH.

As leaders, this is one of the simplest and most powerful things we can do to serve. Leaders serve by teaching. The result is that people grow, and enterprises flourish.

At the heart of Serving Leadership is a non-negotiable premise: people are your organization’s greatest treasure. This point of view requires a change in leaders accustomed to thinking of people as a tool, function, or cost.

Don’t get me wrong. Employees must be useful. They’re hired to accomplish important work. “What can I do to be more useful to you?” is a fantastic question for a young person to ask a first boss. It is guaranteed to distinguish that new worker from the rest of the pack.

But that’s my advice to workers. My advice for leaders is this: “Help your workers discover what they most love to do, what they’re best at doing, and how they can make their greatest contribution.”

There’s a paradox when it comes to how leaders view employees. When we view our workers primarily as tools to get stuff done, we tend to get less stuff done. But when we view employees as human beings, we have the privilege of investing in and helping to grow, we ironically accomplish more.

Gallup’s Q-12 Survey – 12 questions revealing the level of an employee’s engagement – has proven this. Fully one-third of the questions are about the employee’s experience of being invested in, valued, and grown. Gallup asks:

• Question 3: At work, do you have the opportunity to do what you do best?
• Question 6: Is there someone at work who encourages your development?
• Question 11: In the last six months, has someone at work talked to you about your progress?
• Question 12: In the last year, have you had opportunities to learn and grow?

When people love what they’re doing, they naturally give it their full energy and passion. Our work as leaders begins with exploring each person’s strengths. There are various tools available to help in this process, but some of the best are free and low-tech. Try talking over coffee. Here are some helpful questions to ask an employee:

• What do you most like about your job?
• What is it about that aspect of your job that makes it so rewarding for you?
• Is anything hindering your ability to do more of what you do best?
• Is there anything I can do to help you grow and develop?

Leading this way does not need to be difficult. Perhaps it’s “common sense,” but it’s definitely not common practice.

Why does leading this way bring better results? The reason is simple. People who know they’re valued and worth investing in are your company’s greatest assets. When valued, and given the opportunity to work from their strengths, employees become more fully engaged. The higher their engagement, the greater the organization’s productivity and profitability. This is what the Gallup study, along with numerous others, have confirmed over the past several years.

There are “Thank God it’s Friday” people and “Thank God it’s Monday” people. When we think of our people as tools, we get more TGIF people. When we think of our people as a treasure, looking for ways to invest in their growth and development, we get more TGIM people.

I don’t need to ask which kind of person we want on our team. The only question that needs to be asked is, “Are we ready to really help our people grow?” They’re looking for our investment, and they have much more to give in return.

Stanford professor of organizational behavior, Robert Sutton, says, “The gap between knowing and doing is larger than the gap between ignorance and knowledge.” I can’t verify Sutton’s observation empirically, but experience seems to bear this out. 

We are prone to cram our minds full of new things to know yet fail to put into practice those few important things we need to do.

Let’s call this problem of knowing but not doing the “application gap.” Every one of us experiences this challenge, especially in our information-driven work world. While it’s true that there’s an ongoing need to learn and know more – you’ve heard the lament, “if I had only known!” – implementing what is already clear is our greater need.

Let me share three quick insights I’ve learned from others that have helped me close the application gap:

1. “Succeed in a few.” This quote comes from one of my close mentors, Bruce Bickel. He said this to me in the summer of 1993 in the very first meeting I ever had with him. I was 34 years old (how’s your math?), and launching the very first of my enterprises, the Pittsburgh Urban Leadership Service Experience (PULSE, now at http://pulsepittsburgh.org). What’s the point? If you have dozens of must-do’s or could-do’s staring at your day, your week, your month, your quarter, your year, it matters that you know which ones to implement with determination. Everything doesn’t matter equally. A few things matter a great deal. Chasing every opportunity assures a major application gap. I’m reminding myself of this as I see opportunities multiplying, and because I’m seeking focus on those few things I must successfully accomplish.

1. “Little is big.” A few years ago, I had the privilege of teaching principles of Serving Leadership to doctoral students in Hong Kong. Over the course of the class, I gave the students the assignment to put into practice the lessons they learned. One student, a president of a large, national Chinese bank, focused his work on two principles: “Serve Others First,” and “Build on Strength.” I was deeply moved as I read through his project. Though his duties were crushingly large, he worked with great care and intentionality on improving his supervisory relationships with three of his inner staff. The impact on them and his bank was both big and beautiful.

1. “Mind the gap.” Dan Sullivan (www.strategiccoach.com) taught thousands of us that we need encouragement in our goal achievement work. If we continuously stare at the gap between where we are and where we think we should be, we live in debilitating discouragement. Instead, he taught us to observe and appreciate how far you’ve come! You aren’t where you want to be, but you aren’t where you were, either. The great insight by Dan is this: the destination we seek will recede into the horizon as we approach it. In one sense, the purpose of a destination is to pull us forward by always moving ahead of us. As we make progress, our destination asks us to regroup and to stretch further. Life, all evidence seems to suggest, is not so much interested in our arriving as it is in our movement forward in the journey. So, celebrate the progress. Be thankful for how far you’ve come. Recognize, and appreciate the growth.

We need all three of these insights as we “mind the gap.” I can do some things but not all things. I need the encouragement to stay focused. Little things are big; closing the gap on the small things is often the most solid way we have to make progress. And progress is actually being made! We’re not where we will be tomorrow, true enough, but we’re also not where we were yesterday.

How do you handle the application gap in your life? Do you know where it’s most important for you to apply yourself? And do you give enough credit to the small things that you can do? And how about your progress? Do you see how far you’ve come? Celebrate that! Give thanks and be strengthened for the next leg on your journey!